Dec 182009
 

Belle (First, A Good Morning Face!)

…And then the post.

YOU know how it goes. You’re at a gathering. You have a conversation, during which you’re flabbergasted and have no socially acceptable response, or even a response that can sum up your feelings at all. A conversation like, say…

This:

Other Person: [a lovely and kind person with a life experience of job security, good pension, and good health, currently living a very comfortable retirement] Why did you move to New Mexico?

Me: Blah blah blah and in a big part because of the health insurance options.

OP: I don’t get that whole health insurance thing.  We just pay our doctors cash.  It’s so much simpler, and they’re perfectly happy to be paid that way.

Me: [faintly] Oh, really?  Well, I haven’t been able to do that.  In fact, I carry a very large debt right now because I was hospitalized last year, and insurance didn’t cover it.  It’s one of the defining factors of my life.

OP: [expresses concern and curiosity; a short exchange about the situation] Well, that’s a shame you’ve been through that.  I hope the doctors can help soon.

Me: [flabbergasted, mutter something socially appropriate; conversation ends]

But of course you know what happened, two days later, as I was dealing with certain paperwork details of the debt situation.

MyLittleVoice to OP in absentia: Well, the doctors can’t help me if I can’t afford to see them in the first place.

Wah!!  Where is MyLittleVoice when I need it?  Where are my brains when I need them?  One of the most important issues of my maturing generation, and all I got in was a socially appropriate mutter!

Don’t you just hate that?

  • DitN

    Not this conversation, natch, but the “afterthought comeback” — many times. At least this way we can appreciate your deft comeback. And steal it if we ever get into a similar discussion.

  • http://www.doranna.net Doranna

    Yes! Yes! Deft, that’s it! That’s me! 8)