Posts Tagged ‘happy sigh’

One Sunday Morning, with Dog

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012
early view

The early view from the tracking site

The Ominous Sandias

Parking for the first track, looking out over the Sandias and looking cold and portentious

 

The Track 6 Flag

Not that it was evidently windy or anything

 

bundled up and starting out

The judge has just said, "Breathe. We don't do CPR."

 

starting out

The first leg, with crosswind. That's the second flag (in the TD, there's a second flag 30 yards out).

 

Leg 3

On the third of four legs, off in the distance. This is with a zoom lens!

 

The glove

The ceremonial Waving of the Glove!

 

Dart & Patch

Judge, handler, handler, judge--with dogs, ribbons, and gloves! We are happy.

 

my track

The official map, well decorated by my kind tracklayer!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rode Hard and….

Friday, September 30th, 2011

By Patty Wilber

Three a.m. in the New Mexico autumn is dark, with a chill, but that is when the alarm bleeped, repeatedly.  The bed was murmuring “don’t go!” and that soft green blanket was really, well, soft.  And warm.

Not enthusiastically, got up anyway, pulled on some clothes, and stumbled (carefully) down to the barn to feed.

Not the standard storybook fare of apples or carrots or oats.  Nope, we’re talking working horses, feed ‘em something sturdy and affordable.  A flake of alfalfa hay and a flake of grass hay for each equid.  We were leaving in a hour and they were facing a long day of driving to the cow pens and a good many miles of riding.

Drove for four hours, saddled, and tied on saddle bags and slickers even though over head was the intense blue New Mexico sky, cloudless. Last year the aspens were decorated in gold, but this year the cold is just hitting the high country.  Not enough time to cause the light harvesting pigments in the leaves to degrade to their flashy last splash.

We took off…at a walk. No leaping upon the bare-backed steed and galloping across the grassy meadow, because a) I no longer have the spring of my high school high-jumping self who could bounce onto a 17 hand horse from the ground, b) no meadows; the ride starts on a rutted dirt lane between two barbed wire (Bob Why-er, if yer from Texas) fences, and  c) even endurance horses that can cover 100 rugged miles in less than 10 hours, do not gallop from end to end across the day.

We jog-trotted (slow trot, easy to ride, and ground-covering, without blowing up the horse) quite a bit.  Galloping? Not at all. We will gather cows this afternoon, after the 18 mile ride, and then push cows out tomorrow.  No point in wasting energy now.

The day progressed to shirt-sleeve warm.  No wind.  Good horses, good weather, no grading, no computers, no cock-eyed personalitied biology students! No place I’d rather be.

Last week’s cold, wind-driven rain and slick footing was an adrenaline rush challenge (yeah, I wanna be a cowgirl!); this is deep in my soul easy.

The elk and deer were everywhere in June, when we were the first ones up country after the winter snows.  Now they are hidden in the trees; hunting season has begun.  They’ve been replaced. By cows.  In fact, so many gates have been left open by thoughtless hunters or lazy-ass forest users, that at least four herds are hopelessly mixed.  “Leave the gates as you found them” is a good rule of thumb…except what to do when you are pretty sure they should be closed and they are open???

 We made the eastern edge of the ranch in good time, but then took the long cut to get in at the bottom where the fence is not good and some neighbor cows have been interloping.  Slithered down steep slopes of loose volcanic ash  that I would have preferred to avoid (shut up and ride, I wanna be a cowBOY).  Both horses were even tempered and sure on their feet. We did find some neighbor cows, but none of ours.

 Ours were grazing the big meadows east of the bunk house–40 of the 62 anyway.  Sent five neighbor cows out a spot on the north fence that was down.  Fixed the hole. Then we bunched the rest and moved them closer to the horse pasture where we planned to hold them for the night.   The horses had to work back and forth, first to mobilize and then to  motivate the grass-fat bovines.  They had to be quick over rough ground.  Wanna be a cow HORSE? They worked up a full body sweat.

Next we dropped over into Barlow Creek to look for my big red cow. She likes to hang out there, away from the main herd, with her own personal entourage. Up and down, more steep terrain.   The two horses, after 8 hours of riding were still right there for us.  Very game.  Penny is just four and Tabooli, although older, at five, has only 1/3 the number of training hours. As TrainerMom, am Very Pleased!

Found Red and Co., and pushed them up to the first group.  This left 10 still missing, so we made a big loop: back down to Barlow, turned left instead of right and rode east, into the night, as the sky softened through yellow-orange to mauve and starlight gradually filled the moonless sky.  It went from shirt sleeve warm to fleece hat, gloves and three layers on top, cold.  At 10,000 feet, when the sun disappears, the warmth follows, immediately.

 Untacked with the help of the head lamps, and brushed the caked sweat streaks off the horses.

Penny still has her short summer show coat, and although Tabooli has begun to hair up I’d sent blankets up in a truck coming in from the other side.  Given the long day, and the cold night, blankets would reduce stress. T went in a pen too small for two horses when one is PMS-y…yes that would be Penny.  So, she was hobbled outside.  They both got big piles of alfalfa, and water.  No apples. No oats.

Both horses looked sucked up in the flanks–like grey hounds instead of their usual plump selves.  By morning, T looked normal–he eats and drinks very well away from home.  Penny still looked a little dehydrated, although she did eat well.

They were saddled at dawn, which is 6:30 ish at this time of year, and had another ends-at-dark day, starting with finding the last 10 cows and ending with all 62 off the mountain, down at the pens.  In the last big pasture we crossed, Penny (who was working on only three shoes all day–one came off on the night loop) and I went to move the resident bovines out of our path so we didn’t gain mass as our bunch passed through.  She still had it in her to lope a long way at a good clip and get after those cows, then come back to ours, who were moving at the speed of molasses in January at this point, and get after them.

The cows are all at the farm near Estancia, NM now.  Horses got new shoes Thursday and the week off! (And still no apples.) I wanna be a cowgirl.

 

And My Excuse is….

Friday, September 16th, 2011

By Patty Wilber

No real blog today and here is my excuse:

1. Four 5 am to 10 pm days of showing in a row (sat-tues, not including prep last Friday and clean up extending through this Thursday!)  A two day Appaloosa show followed by State Fair. (Did well!  Qualified Whispering Spirit Ranch’s stallion A Para  Dox aka Buckshot for Junior Reining, Hackamore Reining, and Working Cow for 2012 World Appaloosa Show; Penny (registered name: Chips at the Bar) won High Point Performance Horse (Appaloosa show) and High Point Junior Horse (Buckskin show). Everyone is exhausted.

2. Back to work for Weds and Thurs to rediscover that I want to teach biology NOT computer science but I have to be an IT expert to use all the programs (Blackboard Learn, McGraw Hill Connect, Pearson’s Mastering Biology) and get them to function with Windows 9 Million, Safari So Sorry, Internet Explosion, and Google the Chrome is Peeling. (Ok they are not all that bad, but the browsers react in a plethora of ways to the “educational” programs.)

3.  Heading to the High Country at O Dark Thirty today to gather the cows.  Yee HAW.  Back Sunday night, with the critters and will drop them at Winter Place #1. Not much grass so they will move to Winter Place #2 in about a month. I can’t believe how lucky I am to be able to live that dream.

Next Week:  Rode Hard and Put Up Wet.

Training Miss Lily

Friday, July 29th, 2011

By Patty Wilber

Lily is two and a half and has 21 rides.

i am SO cute. i am really really cute. everyone thinks so. or at least i think everyone thinks so!

Here is how she progressed:

I started with eight days of groundwork. More than usual because she was  kind of scary to be around on the ground.

Horses are not small, even the little ones like Lily.  Eight hundred pounds of disrespect can put you six feet under, without really trying.

So, my first job was to get her to treat me like Some One Very Important. The big key to this is getting her to move her feet when I say so and doing my best to never let her move MY feet by pushing into my space or into me.

She did NOT like this and she spent a fair amount of time trying to escape. Her favorite trick was a hard right turn away with an attempt to jerk the lead rope out of my hands.  I had a Percheron cross that did that, too.  He didn’t get the rope away from me  but I  skied  in the dirt after him three of four times until I put a chain attached to the lead rope under his chin. When Lily was thwarted, she’d stamp her feet and toss her head.

By Day 5 of ground work I was putting my foot in the stirrup and by Day 9 I was on her.

Truthfully, the first mount up and settle-in-the-saddle moment scares me.

Except I have never been bucked off a horse on the first mounting, well, or, actually even had a horse buck on the first mounting because by the time I get there, they are ready… of course there is always first time fooled and because I can usually feel them bunched up under me.  Even if they don’t elect to uncoil, it still makes my sympathetic nervous system dump adrenaline to my circulatory system.

Riding a drunk is what the first few days are like.  The horse is clueless (cueless, too!) and they meander!

By Day 5 under saddle in the round pen she was walking, turning and backing two steps.  If I use the right rein to cue for a right turn when her right leg is on the ground, she has time to pick her right leg off the ground and move it sideways. I can get some very soft turns.  If my timing is off, she pulls against the bit.

On Day 6, we trotted.  On Day 7, we turned while trotting!

On Day 8, I took her on a field trip to 4 Winds Equestrian Center and she was so worried that it felt like Ride 1 on a potential bronc.  I rode and rode and rode at a walk until she finally was able to focus for a tiny bit of time.  Quit.

By Day 11 she opened the rope gate and went through.  She had a whoa on voice command, could trot and turn, and move sideways off the pressure of my leg by Day 13.

Out of the round pen, things are less precise because her brain periodically disengages from me and re-engages on..that raven!  The car up there on the road!  The leaf blowing by!  The stink beetle with its butt way up in the air, just waiting to spray!

But she had a decent handle, so I rode her out. Although she was tense (evidence: runny poop, and several deposits),  she was also brave and went where I told her with just a little urging!

She did NOT cry for her stablemates.  She did NOT clamor to go home.  She is NOT barn sour.

Many horses will bond to their handler.  If the bond is strong enough, they are (nearly) as happy to go with their human as with another horse.  However, unfamiliar surroundings can really test the strength of that  bond vs. the allure of the herd.

Bond Fail just tells you:  Need more of that precious commodity: TIME.

Day 14–back to the round pen and her comfort zone and Day 15 out with Jim on Cometa. The lead horse is the “bait”, but Lily had no trouble leading.  Confident!  She followed, but she didn’t need to be all up in Cometa’s tail.  Self assured!!

She opened AND closed my rope gate!

On Ride 19,  her two buddies from home, May and Doc, picked us up and we drove off to do a short trail ride with a water crossing.  Very little issue.  This was followed by  lightening forking around our ears.  THUNDER. Kapow! Soaking rain!

Miss Lily was fine.

The next day I trailered her, alone, to meet an unfamiliar horse.  She was biting her nails when I pulled in…until she saw Blondie, and then, she was “ho de do, where are we going?”  Lily thinks other horses like her, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, so having Blondie, (a pinned ear and the evil eye unnoticed by Our Girl), soothed her New Location jitters.

Two hour ride and one minor spook (those darn trail signs!).  Outstanding!

Ride 21 was in the arena and we got a few nice loping steps, on the correct lead, both directions!

Have lots of little attitude issues to resolve, but for a horse that was rude to the point of potential injury to where she is now..well, how cool is THAT?

Transformative.  One little step at a time!

 

 

Are We Having Fun Yet? YES!

Friday, July 15th, 2011

By Patty Wilber

There was a New Mexico Buckskin (NMBHA) show last Saturday afternoon (3pm start time, 96 degrees F, but it’s a dry heat…as in desiccating.) I took Penny and Buckshot to compete in Reining and Working Cow.

Reining involves running circles, sliding stops, roll backs and spins as in this video of a world class reiner, ok, let me amend that, the world’s most successful, and my personal favorite, reiner, Shawn Flarida.

“Working Cow” consists of “dry work” which is a reining type pattern, followed by  “cow work” in which you “box” the cow at the end of the arena. This means the horse moves the cow back and forth.  Next you run the cow down the long fence line and turn it back, then you circle up.  You have two minutes to do this. Here is a video of cow work.

Penny is not bred for either of those events (she is “pleasure” bred–walk, trot, lope around the rail, reasonable temperment), but she is a good athlete, is pretty cowy, and they are fun, so why not!  Of course, I blew her up on cows by doing that darn ranch sorting in February (see Run Fever).

For reining, Penny is still building her flying lead changes (in the reining video,  at the change of direction in the circles, the leading leg of the horse changes in the air–that’s a flying lead change) and she does not have much of a sliding stop (four feet tops so far), but she is running her circles and changing speeds well and her spins are improving. She won a buckskin class Saturday.

Last time I tried Working Cow on her, she kept flashing to ranch sorting…bucking, rearing, way too much adrenaline.  She is fine with cows at the ranch and did well at the branding two weeks ago, so my plan was to get her in a competition environment, keep it really quiet, and ignore the whole idea of going for a score.

Worked! She was hooked on the cow when boxing.  No drama.  Trotted the cow down the fence a time or two, and sort of circled it at a trot and a slow lope. I quit on that cow when I thought we’d done enough and walked her out on a loose rein!

Trotting, head quiet, relaxed! Yeah! Her body shape should mirror the cow more, but her right front foot is in the air, like the cow, so that is good! Photo courtesy of Chuck Eggers who went with me, was a great help with the horses AND took pictures!

Buckshot is bred to rein.  He improves daily, and Saturday he put together his best pattern yet.  He motored on his big circles while staying relaxed!  His spins were correct (still too slow), he hit his lead changes and boy can he stop!  He is performing at the top of his current training.  Often you can get a lot more out of a horse at home where things are familiar.  He seems comfortable everywhere!

Buckshot running circles!

Stopping nice and low. Really putting in the effort! A couple problems: 1) I am looking to the side to make sure I don't over run my marker. This can throw the horse off. I should be looking forward. 2) My legs are braced, putting too much weight in the stirrups. This drives the front end of the horse down which does not enhance the slide!

He got a 4th under one judge, which just fried me. I had to phone a friend to vent!  Fortunately, she was in COMPLETE agreement with me!

He won under the other judge, that has reiners, so there!

That however, is horse showing. Sometimes you get a gift and sometimes you get the short stick. Buckshot himself did all he could do and I am SO proud of him!

I watched the Appaloosa Nationals Junior Working Cow Horse class online the other day and a horse sired by DK Smartmate of Whispering Spirit Ranch and owned and trained by Jim Jirkovski of J Bar S Training, won.

She looked good! I thought, “Buckshot can do dry work close to what she did!”  So, I got a little bee up my b…  bonnet and decided he needs to go the Nationals next year to compete in Junior Working Cow (junior = a horse five or under and he will be five next year).

No time to start like the present.  I entered him in Working Cow at NMBHA. He caught on real quick (The class only lasts two minutes so I am not kidding.  Quick.) (He has moved cows for me at the farm, so not like he’s never been with a cow.)

Oh boy! I asked him push it when circling the cow and he tracked (followed) it like a charm, changed leads, ran really hard, and as soon as I asked him to shut it down, he did.   Walked out like he was taking a stroll in the park.

Pushing the cow up the arena. What a nice expression he has, as well as intent, and he is still paying attention to me.

There is a lot to work on, but one judge thought he was good enough for a 2nd, which actually, I think, falls into the “gift” category.

Buckshot comported himself in such a low key manner while really stepping up when asked, that several people expressed interest in breeding to him!

Whispering Spirit Ranch (his owner) is going to breed him to All Round Sundown this week.  I rode that mare as a four-year-old to a National Championship in Western Riding (lots of lead changes), 3rd in Junior Reining, and 10th in the World in Junior Trail.  That is a foal I want to get my hands on!

Ali taking 3rd at Appaloosa Nationals in Jr. Snaffle Bit Reining. Hey I wore that same shirt at the show Sunday! No chaps though. Too hot!

Days of Thunder

Wednesday, February 2nd, 2011

Wow, I like that. Impressive sounding!

Yesterday we had thundersnow. Big, cracking lightning, booming thunder muffled by the wall snow.  It struck something nearby, but all the backups kicked in pretty quickly.

For which I’m grateful, because that wall of thundersnow was only the leading edge of the Big Storm that’s hitting so many states this week, and which has now buried us.

Snow Teeter

Why I'm not practicing agility before the weekend trial...

Storm of Reckoning

It's a BOOK!

But the storm crosses the line from reality to conceptual!  Because STORM OF RECKONING is out this week!  Yes!  It’s on the shelves!  Being pretty!  And handsome!

I hope, if you read it, that you enjoy it.  8)  It meant a lot to me to be able to write it.

And also, TOTAL BONUS, I’m guesting over at Terry Odell’s Blog Place this week, and I got to write about Vicarious Wallowing.

Oh, go on.  Go look. You know you want to!

Concatenating Coolness

Wednesday, December 29th, 2010

Making the Rules

Hidden Steel

A Feral Darkness

Deep River Reckoning

bookmarks

Unbelievable!  The Coolness goes on and on! This week it’s something for everyone–ebook readers and hardcopy readers alike.

So guess what!  Backlist eBooks is having an “It’s Still the Season” Sale! So to all those hungry new e-reading devices, it’s feast time!  All formats, all DRM free.

With 25% off out-of-print books already priced low by the authors… Yeah, you bet I went shopping!

Anyway, it’s easy. It’s a coupon sale, and the directions are right on the sale page:

RIGHT HERE GO AND BUY BOOKS

See all mine? They’re all $2.99 books before the discount:

“Another trademark Durgin, full of realism, deft strokes of humour (and pop culture), plenty of sizzle, compassion, action, and a heroine you not only believe, you want to be. Grab this one.” –Julie Czerneda, Stratification series

“HIDDEN STEEL is a pulse-pounding suspense…Full of mystery and interesting characters, HIDDEN STEEL will grab readers from the beginning and is a book you don’t want to miss.”

–Jennifer Bishop, Romance Reviews Today

“I’ve been a Doranna Durgin fan for years, and she consistently delivers all the things I like in a book…she doesn’t disappoint in this, [MAKING THE RULES], either.” –Karen Gould, reader review

“The mystery and fantasy slowly draw together, bonded by supreme characterization, to make for a story which is almost impossible to put down.”

–Reviewers Bookwatch

There, see? Aren’t those nice?

What?

What do you mean, I’m biased? Surely not.

Besides, there are books by all THESE authors to choose from, too!

MYSTERY & SUSPENSE
Patricia Ryan
Deb Baker
Lorraine Bartlett/L.L. Bartlett
Lillian Stewart Carl
Libby Fischer Hellmann
Mary Ellen Hughes
Michael Allan Mallory
Maryann Miller
Terry Odell

CONTEMPORARY ROMANCE
Julie Ortolon
Judith Arnold
Fran Baker
Pamela Burford
Marsha Canham
Christina Crooks
Lori Devoti
Patricia McLinn
Terry Odell
Kathryn Shay

HISTORICAL ROMANCE
Patricia Ryan
Marsha Canham
Melanie Jackson
Patricia McLinn
Laurin Wittig

PARANORMAL ROMANCE
Doranna Durgin
Lillian Stewart Carl
Lori Devoti

ROMANTIC SUSPENSE

Doranna Durgin
Patricia Rosemoor

SF/FANTASY
Doranna Durgin
Lillian Stewart Carl
Jeffrey A. Carver

WOMEN’S FICTION
Patricia McLinn
Maryann Miller
Susanne O’Leary

*infomercial voice* But wait! There’s MORE!

That’s because I’ve got bookmarks on the way, and I’ll be mailing them out soon.  See?  There it is at under the book covers, front and back.

It’s terribly terribly hard to get one of these nice glossy, sturdy long-lasting beauties.  Are you ready?

Email me.

Okay, yeah.  Include your snail mail address. Until I perfect the “Beam me up Scotty” school of mail delivery, I’m sticking with envelopes and the USPS.  But the good thing is, once you get a bookmark, you’re on the list for any new goodies that come out, too!

Oh, happy sigh. It is a week of bookie goodness!

Looking at the Rear View, Badly Rhymed

Friday, December 24th, 2010

By Patty Wilber    

Warning: bad rhyme to follow (think Gilligan’s Island)    

Just sit right back and you”ll hear a rhyme
a rhyme of an adventurous time
it was the year 2010
and I will now begin.    

It was like a totally awesome year,
Definitely not ho hum
Lots of horses near and far
loads and loads of fun.    

One hundred thirty three hours of trail work
which included packing, too
Penny lead and Risa followed,
since her other skills are few, I mean her other skills are new!    

Risa: REALLY? Me: YES!

Risa: Really?! Me: Yes!

OK! Merry Christmas from Risa

   Some cows got sorted and pushed along,
Penny was the one
T got cut behind the gut,
After getting some, after catching more than one.    

Merry Christmas from Penny

  The Fjords kept me guessing about what to try,
Colorado was a blast
Donati, Juanita, Anni and Paul, too
Boy what a class, they are quite the cast!    

The young ones I started (Tabooli and May)
gave me lots to do
And the rescue horse (Winston, cute boy)
Has a home that’s new, they got him right on cue!    

Merry Christmas from Tabooli

 I had some here that just needed a bit
of a little tweak
Show Boy was one, and he’s so great
the other one was Zeke, and he was not a geek.    

The Belgian (Waffle) was a LARGE treat,
I’ve never been so high
He started spooky and afraid
but now he’ calm as pie, which makes me say “Oh my!”    

We did a show and a dressage clinic
with the Azteca Dart
My good friend helped me that day
and Dart is always in my heart, he’s really in my heart.    

  

 

   

There were a few just here a while
to see where they would fit
Cisco, Millie, and Sienna, too
I never want to quit, they were just here for a bit.    

I did a little rehab stint
with Dartagnon and Longshot
Longshot’s growing like a weed,
he will not be going to pot, I think he has a spot.    

I had a slew of lessons starting with
Whip, Shadow and the Schmoo
Plus Fletcher, Glory, Ruble,
Rose, Cookie, AJ, Charrito, Rocky and Dusty, too. And little Dusty, too.    

Merry Christmas from Schmoo

Merry Christmas from Dusty

Rocky says Merry Christmas!

  One more shot I have not forgot
is the buckskin appy colt
Three’s his age; reining’s his game and
he is one smooth colt; he’ll slide without a jolt.    

How embarrassing. My tongue is out!

Merry Christmas from Buckshot

 Rain and sun all came together,
to make a big double rainbow,
As I ride out of the ’10, doncha know,
’11 literally starts with 2 shows, Jan 1 & 2, two shows!!    

Merry Christmas from The Boss of the Universe (Cometa), who approved this blog,

Merry Christmas to all from Risotada Training! 

Merry Christmas from Patty

 (so, think we can get all comments in verse?…he he!)

The Hubris of Me

Wednesday, November 3rd, 2010

Making the Rules

Hidden Steel

A Feral Darkness

Because, you know, how absurd is it to have a Durgin Store at Amazon?

ME ME ME ME ME!!

But there it is.

I feel like I should break out into song. “I feel pretty! Oh so PRETTY!”

Or something.

But why, you ask? Why bother, when the books are already available at Amazon anyway?

Books! All in one spot!

Books! Divided into handy categories!

Books! Hogging the spotlight!

I especially like the way the Backlist eBooks get a little starring role, but the others are all there, too–even those hardcopies that these days are only available used. Or maybe especially those, because it’s those I hear the most about. (PS you know I have a bunch of hardcopy backlist titles here, right? If you’re looking for something, you can drop me a line.)

This store happens to be through Amazon, because Amazon has the tools to make it happen. The moment other bookstores offer the same, they’ll get equal time. Or sooner. Because I don’t want all my publishing eggs in one giant gorilla-like basket, if you know what I mean.

And meanwhile, just in time! See over there? A Feral Darkness has a new cover! Do you like it?  (Oh, I hope!)

I feel pretty–!

The Past and Future Wedding

Monday, October 4th, 2010

That makes it sound appropriately SF/F-ish, doesn’t it?  Plus romance?  Yes.  I think I like it.

This, as it happens, is a letter to a friend’s daughter.  About a wedding I couldn’t go to, but thought about a whole lot.

romantic!Dear Friend’s Daughter:

Do you remember when we met? You were seven. We were at an entirely grown up writers meeting thing so when I saw your little self with whatever project you’d brought along that day, I was silently all wincey inside.

You know. “Ugh, this is not going to be good.”

Ha ha ha!  Was I wrong! Let it not be said that children cannot instruct certain adults with their good behavior.

There was more to come, of course. Like the first time you answered the phone when I called.  The first time you answered the door when I stopped by, because who knew we would turn out to be “cut through the backyards” neighbors?

The moment I realized that when doing these things, you had more poise than I ever have.

Hmph.

Years passed–they have a habit of doing that–and through the process of movie nights, drop-bys, and the best dinners ever, I also had the chance to watch your various explorations of Things to Do with Life.  In these I always saw an admirable combination of passion, thoughtfulness, and thoroughness.

Which, frankly, I never quite understood. I’m not so old that I don’t still remember me at that age, you know.

So for a while, I had the privilege of being on the sidelines of your life. And then I moved a little, and was less so, and then I moved a lot, and…well.

Not so long ago, then, I heard about the Pending Nuptials. And I got absurdly pleased and excited.  And I thought, well, huh!  What’s that all about?  (Because, you know, writers just never let these things go.)

I did figure it out, though. It’s the potential of it all.  It’s because I don’t have to know New Hubby to know how very much you’re doing the right thing for you, and that as you’re faced with the big honkin’ new things that come with marriage, you–and he–will face them with that same admirable combination of thought, passion, and completeness that I saw from that first day: at meeting, with project, teaching the grown-ups a thing or two.

In other words…  SQUEEEEE!  YOU GOT MARRIED!  WAHOOO!

(Have a good time.)